Transience Update

Carol called me this weekend and told me that she got a job teaching in Chicago, considering it seems that Carol had to make a major life change to move with her partner Heidi to Chicago. I am glad that she is now teaching and in a good job at a Magnet school. From what she described to me it seems to be a cake job.

Best wishes and good luck on your new teaching job, Carol.

Liam's Kisses

Well Liam has finally learned how to kiss other people with his mouth closed and not biting when kissing other people, or at least to Ahmie and I he has been kissing us or giving his cheek for a kiss. Liam is a very affectionate child but it seems that he has a taste for human flesh. So it is horrible when he plays with other children, or the one time Ahmie and I had left Liam at Church daycare for service Liam climbed on top of another young child and bit him in the cheek and cause the other kid to bleed when the daycare volunteer was not looking. So I almost always take Liam to the daycare area of our church and often miss the service and sermon because our church is currently undergoing major renovation. I have to watch him like a hawk to make sure that he is not patting other children too hard nor will he get the opportunity to bite other children when he tries to hug them.

The frustrating thing about all of this is that Liam is a sweet and affectionate child but he intimidates other children even ones that are older then him by a year or so. This is mostly because he has the tendency to pat hard or bite when he hugs and kisses.

Sorry Carol, I guess when Liam sees you next he won't be a horrible boyfriend to you and bite you in both cheeks when you pick him up.

Transience is a constant

One of my favorite essays was titled Eros and Thanatos (a new refutation of), now this essay was from my senior year Lit magazine Opus. The essay talked of Love and how Love transcends time and is immortal, those not in Love is in a transitory universe going from moment to moment. Yes, seems quite melodramatic. However, parts of the essay is stuck to my mind like really thick peanut butter.

With apologies to Tara Baltazar

In the sixth grade I thought I'd kill myself over a fight with my mother. Today, I can't remember the fight. In this age I am seeing someone. Twenty years from now someone will only be marked by time and place. Nineteen ninety-five, East Village. A photograph may remember.

excerpt from Eros and Thanatos (a new refutation of)

My friends Carol and Heidi are moving to Chicago today and I will miss them. I remember Heidi from one of my first times visiting the Westshore Unitarian universalist Church in Rocky River, Ohio. I did not remember what the sermon was about by I was struck when she came up to the podium and talked about how her partner (Carol) and her lives were set and seemed to be smooth going and then both she and Carol lost their jobs and how frightful this experience was. Heidi ended with a different job as a social worker, and Carol was continued at her teaching job despite being laid off earlier in the summer. I think that Ahmie and I approached Heidi after that service and introduced ourselves.

That was the start of a beautiful friendship. Now Carol and Heidi are all packed up their apartment is mostly empty except for some trash that needs to be tidied. Heidi is going to seminary school in Chicago training to be an Unitarian universalist (UU) minister. Carol is going with her and trying to find work there.

I feel a strong urge to wake up early in the morning an make sure I take a picture of Carol and Heidi before they drive off.

Two Thousand and Five, Lakewood. A photograph may remember.