When I was getting Liam ready for bed tonight he asked me "Where did I (Liam) came from and mommy and daddy and ..." I started to answer well Liam you came to be because Mama and Daddy had a lot of love to share and we had to make another person to share that love. I then explained that I came from my parents because they had lots of love to share. Then Liam reasoned that Mama came from Funny grandma and uncle Marvin. Which I think would be a reasonable hypothesis for Liam because that is the limit of his close biological family, and the only people not paired up were Cindy and Marvin.
I had to correct him and said to him that Funny grandma and Mama's daddy had a lot of love and made Mama. Liam then asked the predictable question. Where is Mama's daddy? Is he far away, is he dead? I had to say Mama's daddy is far away.
How can I say to Liam that your Mama's biological father's love was so tenuous that he is almost dead to her? How can I say to him that Barrack Obama has held you more times then your grandfather has? How can I say to him that your right to eat as a 2 week old caused discomfort to your step grandmother? How can I say to him that your Mama's biological father had love to give to other women and left your Funny grandma? How can I say to him that your Mama's biological father had not enough love to pay all the child support payments due to her when she was a child? How can I say to him that most of the family on your mama's biological father's side loves to gossip and speak ill of each other behind each other's backs, and frankly you don't need this dysfunction.
How I wished I could have said something, anything, otherwise.
Sunday, March 29, 2009
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